Reasons why I’m excited for “Dear White People:”
- Black actors portraying 3-dimensional characters
- Honest social commentary
- Targeted to the college age demographic
- Thorough exploration of the various forms of racism in America
- Tessa Thompson’s voice and Tyler William’s afro wig
Reasons why I’m not excited for “Dear White People:”
- White people calling it racist
- Mainstream media agreeing with the white people calling it racist
Let’s compare its Rotten Tomatoes score:
To its IMDB score:
And for a little context for that IMDB score:
Ahhhh, yes. White male tears of rage flowing freely already.
I have no time in my day for people who say things like “I will not apologize unless you prove I’m wrong.”
Apologizing is not a concession of defeat. It’s an expression of empathy.
Yes, it can and should be used to say “I was wrong. I am sorry.”
But it can also be used to say “Even though I did not know I was being hurtful, I am sorry that I hurt you and I will do my best not to do so again.”
If I’m in a crowded store and I knock someone over by mistake, I apologize because I’m concerned that I, a large man, knocked someone who is likely smaller than me over. I apologize because they fell over and I didn’t. Even though I didn’t intend it, I might have hurt them. In the future, I make a mental note to be more careful in crowded areas. I don’t say “Well, you went sprawling and I didn’t but it was an accident so don’t expect an apology.”
The same goes for basic communication. Perhaps I say something hurtful without realizing it. Someone tells me it was hurtful. The right thing to do is apologize, to note that what I said was hurtful, and keep that in mind in the future. Digging in and saying “I wasn’t doing it on purpose” serves only to feed my own ego.
If you’re the kind of person who apologizes only when you are irrevocably incorrect, then you are the kind of person who only apologizes when you are in a position that makes you irrevocably foolish, or cruel, or ignorant. You care more about making yourself feel better than making amends with the person you hurt.